If your home was recently burglarized, then the negative emotions your spouse and you have may have led to endless bickering since the event. While you both may know that neither of you are to blame for the event, one of you may be pointing fingers at the other for not locking the door or not agreeing with the other who had mentioned needing a home security system in the past. Don't let the home break-in destroy your marriage with feelings of violation the intruder caused along with the loss of peace-of-mind. Here are two important ways to help save your marriage before it is too late.
1. Take Necessary Steps to Restore Your and Your Spouse's Peace-of-mind
While your homeowner's insurance may cover the cost of some stolen belongings, they can't replace a stolen feeling of security in your own home. If your spouse is having trouble sleeping at night or feeling safe when they are in your home alone, then adding extra security to your home can help you both feel more secure. If your spouse would feel better if your home was protected by a security system, but you don't want the added bill, it may be best to give into your spouse's wishes or pose a compromise, such as asking them if installing a privacy fence would make them feel secure.
Just having this discussion can help open up communication between the two of you and lead to additional feelings about the event being shared that either of you have been keeping bottled up.
2. Seek Marriage Counseling
Home break-ins can cause sadness and anger that persist long after the event occurs. If these feelings are not dealt with in a healthy way by both of you, they can lead to persisting depression and anxiety that will cause an even larger strain on your marriage. Professional counseling, such as from Center for Relationships, is very important after a stressful life event, because counselors help people deal with negative emotions in a healthy way. A marriage counselor can help open the communication lines between you and your spouse and allow you to both voice your feelings without arguing. You can each have sessions alone, if you would like, and have sessions together.
While you many couples think of counseling as a "last ditch" resort when their arguments have finally led to one partner requesting divorce or separation, counselors stress that it is important to seek help before this point arrives. One states that most couples they work with seek counseling an average of six years later than needed and when their relationship has already gone too in the wrong direction to preserve it. It is much easier for counselors to prevent relationship disasters than it is for them to help clean up the aftermath.
If your home was burglarized and it has led to endless arguments with your spouse, then don't let the crook steal your happy marriage from you like they stole your belongings. Take steps to help you and your spouse to feel more secure in your home, if necessary, and begin marriage counseling before it is too late.