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How To Keep Your Anxiety Under Control While You Are Applying To College

Posted by on Nov 4, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on How To Keep Your Anxiety Under Control While You Are Applying To College

When you are applying to college, it might seem like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Where you go to college could potentially determine the type of job you get, the amount of money you make, the types of friends that you make, and the level of happiness that you experience. It’s a huge decision, and for people with anxiety, it can be a torturous one. If you have anxiety, here are some tips for keeping it under control while you are applying to colleges in order to make sure that you do the best that you possibly can. 1. Set Deadlines First, make a calendar that has all of the application deadlines for all of the schools that you are considering. Write it on paper if you can and not on your phone or tablet. Then, in a different color of pen or marker, mark a day a few days before each deadline and set this as your personal application deadline. If you internalize that this is the deadline, you will know that you will be able to finish the applications with plenty of time because you will be finishing them early. This should help quell any irrational worries you have about things going wrong at the last second, because you are giving yourself time for things to go wrong. The extra few days in between your personal deadline and the actual deadline are for problems, such as ACT or SAT not getting your request to send your scores, to occur. 2. Divide Large Applications Into Small Parts Next, you need to get to work on the applications. Sometimes, anxiety can be so great that you procrastinate doing things that you need to do, resulting in your overall anxiety being higher. To deal with this, all you have to do is make each application seem manageable. For example, filling out the Common Application can seem like an insurmountable task, but just picking the topic for your essay is much easier. Do that one day. Then, write the opening paragraph and organize what you want the body paragraphs to look like. Then write the body paragraphs. Fill out all of the personal information the following day. If you take each smaller section one day at a time, you’ll be done in no time. 3. Talk to Someone In College Finally, talk to someone in college. They’ll be able to help guide you through the process and help you put it in perspective. Many colleges are very similar to each other and getting into your dream school is not the end of the world. There are tons of students who didn’t get into their dream schools and had an amazing college experience. Find those students and get their perspective on the issue to help calm yourself down. For more information, talk to a mental health counselor. To see what support services are available, go to website links or call for an...

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Your Home Was Burglarized? 2 Ways To Keep The Stress From Affecting Your Marriage

Posted by on Oct 23, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Your Home Was Burglarized? 2 Ways To Keep The Stress From Affecting Your Marriage

If your home was recently burglarized, then the negative emotions your spouse and you have may have led to endless bickering since the event. While you both may know that neither of you are to blame for the event, one of you may be pointing fingers at the other for not locking the door or not agreeing with the other who had mentioned needing a home security system in the past. Don’t let the home break-in destroy your marriage with feelings of violation the intruder caused along with the loss of peace-of-mind. Here are two important ways to help save your marriage before it is too late.  1. Take Necessary Steps to Restore Your and Your Spouse’s Peace-of-mind While your homeowner’s insurance may cover the cost of some stolen belongings, they can’t replace a stolen feeling of security in your own home. If your spouse is having trouble sleeping at night or feeling safe when they are in your home alone, then adding extra security to your home can help you both feel more secure. If your spouse would feel better if your home was protected by a security system, but you don’t want the added bill, it may be best to give into your spouse’s wishes or pose a compromise, such as asking them if installing a privacy fence would make them feel secure.  Just having this discussion can help open up communication between the two of you and lead to additional feelings about the event being shared that either of you have been keeping bottled up.  2. Seek Marriage Counseling Home break-ins can cause sadness and anger that persist long after the event occurs. If these feelings are not dealt with in a healthy way by both of you, they can lead to persisting depression and anxiety that will cause an even larger strain on your marriage. Professional counseling, such as from Center for Relationships, is very important after a stressful life event, because counselors help people deal with negative emotions in a healthy way. A marriage counselor can help open the communication lines between you and your spouse and allow you to both voice your feelings without arguing. You can each have sessions alone, if you would like, and have sessions together.  While you many couples think of counseling as a “last ditch” resort when their arguments have finally led to one partner requesting divorce or separation, counselors stress that it is important to seek help before this point arrives. One states that most couples they work with seek counseling an average of six years later than needed and when their relationship has already gone too in the wrong direction to preserve it. It is much easier for counselors to prevent relationship disasters than it is for them to help clean up the aftermath.  If your home was burglarized and it has led to endless arguments with your spouse, then don’t let the crook steal your happy marriage from you like they stole your belongings. Take steps to help you and your spouse to feel more secure in your home, if necessary, and begin marriage counseling before it is too...

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DUI Counseling Tips: An Alcoholic’s Guide To Avoid Drunk Driving

Posted by on Oct 23, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on DUI Counseling Tips: An Alcoholic’s Guide To Avoid Drunk Driving

You should never put yourself in a position where you drive under the influence, as it can be dangerous, but making sure you stay sober can be hard for a person attempting to let go of this vice. You can avoid using your car or just use a taxi, yet these are not always available options. The following is a simple and helpful guide that may help keep you from drinking before getting behind the wheel. Repel Triggers The first thing you should do is recognize the triggers that may make you think of drinking, which can help you make sure you avoid that drink. The following are just a few things that may be considered a trigger: Drinking buddies Places where you drink Different stresses or mental thoughts that bring alcohol to mind Remember that triggers are very personal, so make sure you take your time to make up your list, or have a professional counselor (like those at Counseling Center of Illinois) help you decipher some of the triggers pushing you towards drinking. Deflect The Urge The next thing you can try is deflecting the urge for alcohol by giving your body food that may help replace the need that alcohol would have otherwise satisfied. You can deflect the urge with the following: Try eating something sugary, like raw honey, or another type of sweet to satisfy your body’s need for the carbohydrates alcohol provides Eat more (try to consume healthy foods) to help get your body satisfied and full, making your body unable to drink any longer. Attack The Urge The urge for alcohol–as you know–comes from your brain, so the next thing you can try is attacking the urge from its inception. You may need to work on self control. To control yourself successfully, this involves the perfect execution of brain functions, like memory. A recent study took a closer look at memory in regards to self control and found that the two are related, successfully showing that improved memory can help individuals have more self control. So a drinker may be able to avoid his or her urge for alcohol by working on a few memory exercises, and the following are a few that you can try: Try to remember a sequence of letters or numbers after they disappear Find board games that rely on your memory skills, like chess or trivia games Make it a habit to learn and repeat quotes or song lyrics As you can see, there are a few things that you can do to make sure you stay sober and protect yourself from the dangers of drunk...

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Rebuilding A Marriage After Infidelity

Posted by on Oct 21, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Rebuilding A Marriage After Infidelity

Learning that your spouse has been unfaithful can affect you emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Being betrayed by the person that you love and trust the most can make you question everything about your life together, but there are many couples that are able to overcome cheating in a marriage, and in some cases the marriage is even stronger after it is challenged. If your spouse has been unfaithful, but you want to rebuild your marriage, use the following tips: Start Couples Counseling ASAP Marriages can have a number of problems, but infidelity is one that can be very hard to deal with. It can bring up intense feelings of distrust and betrayal, and the spouse that has been cheated on may feel like he or she is not loved by his or her spouse. These kinds of emotions can rarely be resolved by talking about things privately as a couple- if you want to save and rebuild your marriage, it is important to start working with an experienced marriage counselor that can guide you and your spouse and help you build a stronger marriage after going through a marital crisis. A couples counselor is trained to assist romantic couples, and when you work with one you can count on a neutral third party that can help you discover the problems in your marriage, and how to fix them. Agree to Let the Past be in the Past Cheating does not have to be condoned or accepted; but if you and your spouse both put in effort and work hard during your couples counseling sessions, there will come a point where you have to decide if you can let go of the infidelity. It can take a long time to get over or even accept being betrayed by your spouse– but if you are willing to rebuild and repair your marriage after infidelity you have to let the betrayal go. It may sound counter-intuitive, but no relationship can grow and thrive if you are bringing up past mistakes every time their is a disagreement. Your marriage counselor can help you determine whether or not you can truly forgive your spouse for cheating. Slowly Reconnect with Your Spouse Couples counseling can do wonders for a marriage after one party is unfaithful. As you and your spouse work together to rebuild your marriage and relationship, take the time to talk to each, begin touching each other again, and regain intimacy when you feel emotionally and mentally...

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Family Member Addicted To Methamphetamine? Tips To Help Them

Posted by on Oct 20, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Family Member Addicted To Methamphetamine? Tips To Help Them

If you have a family member that is addicted to methamphetamine (meth), you need to seek help for them quickly. Drug rehab is one option you have. When it comes to this, there are different methods that are used. Below is some information about what meth does to the body, and the types of rehab available to help someone addicted to it. What it does Learning what meth does to their body may give your family member an incentive to quit. A lot of times, someone that does a drug is likely not thinking how it is harming them, but instead the high they will get from it. Meth affects the nervous system and can cause symptoms like: Insomnia that lasts a long time Convulsions Paranoia Irritability Confusion Tremors Aggressiveness Long term side effects of meth include: Damage to teeth Cardiovascular problems Skin abscesses Osteoporosis Meth can also damage the blood vessels in the brain, which can lead to a stroke or irregular heartbeat. Brain damage may also occur, causing symptoms like an inability to grasp thoughts, memory loss, and extreme mood things. They also may have symptoms like violent behavior, confusion, and anxiety. Meth addiction may cause some psychotic features like delusions, paranoia, mood disturbances, and auditory hallucinations. Drug Rehab Methods The type of treatment your family member will receive depends much on the treatment center they go to. Below are some of the different methods you may find at these centers. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) will teach your family member why they use meth in the first place. They will figure out triggers that may cause cravings, as well as certain situations that may cause a trigger to cravings. They will teach your family member how they can avoid their cravings, and how to deal with any of them that may occur. Contingency Management. Contingency reinforcement uses positive reinforcement or rewards when someone meets a goal, such as a drug test that came out clean. Rewards they may use include movie tickets or gift cards. On the other hand, if a goal is not met, such as a failed drug test, then a punishment is used. This may be something like decreasing the amount of time they spend socializing. Family. It is important that you and other family members are involved in their treatment, as this will give your family member a much better chance of sticking with treatment. They can get support from you and other family members, which is especially important during the first few weeks when treatment is at its most challenging. Meth is a highly addictive drug, and it will take time for your family member to get off of it. Drug rehab may not work the first time, but if they keep working at it they can become drug free. Visit for more information about...

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5 Reasons Why You Have Trouble Sticking With Anything

Posted by on Oct 19, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 5 Reasons Why You Have Trouble Sticking With Anything

You have started a multitude of projects, took on hobbies, started a business or two, or tried to learn a foreign language, yet you end up eventually abandoning all these things. Why is that, you wonder? Why can’t you stick to anything long enough to get good at it and see results? Or if you do have some initial success, why do you let it wane, and move on to something else? There are five things, either singly or in combination, that could be holding you back. 1. Internal Resistance You may have unrecognized fears such as: The fear of being frustrated when things don’t turn out perfectly the first time you do them, or when multiple attempts fail. Very few worthwhile things are created on the first try, but you know this already. You just need to develop persistence in your own endeavors. The fear of success, since you may be afraid you cannot live up to, or surpass initial successes. The chances are you will continue to experience successes, but whether you do or not, you develop many good qualities that could generalize into other areas of your life, by consistent practice. The fear of criticism by others. Most people who are quick to criticize your efforts to do something, are really fighting their own resistance to personal growth. You can have empathy for them, but not so much that you give up what you are doing to quell their fears. The fear of boredom setting in once you get proficient at something. The thing about boredom is that it ebbs and flows during any pursuit, so you have to accept this. It would be beneficial for you to write out your thoughts, beliefs, and fears so that you can find ways to substitute more helpful thoughts when you experience fear and self-doubt. You might try daily free-writing. This quick uncensored writing done for several days in a row can lead you to some valuable insights about the subconscious things that could be holding you back. 2. Lack of Support and Encouragement It is difficult to persevere when you face a dearth of support and encouragement from the people you care about. You may be close to someone, or have come from a family, that has been in a survival mode due to various factors for a long time. Bucking the trend can cause those people to feel uncomfortable. The thing is, if you do work hard and consistently on projects, you are providing a good example to others. This may cause a few of your nay-sayers to eventually think about their own desires and work towards accomplishing something.  Whether they do or not, you would be adding meaning to your own life. 3. Lack of Patience A lack of patience might be haunting you, but you won’t overcome this and develop patience by continuing to give up on things. Try envisioning the long-range view; time is going to pass whether you steadily work towards your goals or not. Wouldn’t you rather have the skills and accomplishments acquired over the years, than not? In the meantime, be sure to give yourself small rewards along the way. 4. Conflicts over What to Focus On You may have an unresolved conflict on what to pursue. For example, you may...

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Tips For Managing Your Anxiety

Posted by on Oct 14, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Tips For Managing Your Anxiety

Having anxiety is never fun. It can make you feel out of control, cause you to increase your stress levels and generally become less effective, and make your life difficult to live. Here are some tips for managing your anxiety so that you can build a life worth living. 1. Set a Worrying Time Limit One thing that you can do to control your anxiety is to set a timer on your phone for 15 to 20 minutes. During this time, allow all of your worries and fears to wash over you. Worry about everything from whether or not you had food in your teeth during the meeting to how you will feel when your new puppy gets old and dies in eleven to twelve years. Don’t judge any of your worries. Just feel them. Say your worries out loud or write them down. When the timer rings, commit to not worry anymore. There’s nothing that you can do about the future and the past. Forcing yourself to stop worrying all the time is nearly impossible. Allowing yourself to worry for a short period of time and then avoid worrying in the future is a good way to get your anxiety out without it taking over your entire day. Close your notebook and immediately go do something else. 2. Exercise Another way to manage your anxiety is to exercise regularly. Whenever you feel anxious, put in some music and allow yourself to take the time that you need to get your heart pumping and body sweating. This will produce endorphins that will make you more resistant to anxious thoughts and take your mind off of whatever is bothering you at that particular moment. Both give you some clarity and allow you to move away from the problem. 3. Watch Your Life Like It’s a Movie Finally, try to observe what’s going on in your life as though your life is a movie and you are merely watching it. Analyze every detail from this vantage point. This will allow you to think more clearly and make better decisions to solve your problems because you will not be gripped with emotion. This will also help you stay in the moment and not worry about the future or the past. When you watch a movie, you only see what is happening on the screen at the time. For more information, talk to a counselor that specializes in anxiety and depression...

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Baby Steps: The Process Of Adoption

Posted by on Oct 7, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Baby Steps: The Process Of Adoption

For couples who are struggling with fertility issues or for those who are just looking to give a baby a good home, adoption is often a viable option. In the United States, there are many children who get adopted into loving homes each year. If you’re considering adoption, it is important to know and understand the steps involved in the process. Once you know how adoption works, you can be prepared to bring a beautiful child into your family and home. Choose an Agency Adoption agencies serve as a way to help new prospective parents find a child to adopt, perform screenings, and help ensure the safety of the child and that he or she is adopted into a good home. Find a few local adoption agencies, and do some research to determine which one will serve your needs best. It’s recommended that you get a few personal referrals from happy parents who have found success there.  Undergo a Home Study After you’ve chosen an agency to use, you’ll need to have a home study performed by a social worker. The purpose of this study is to ensure that the child being adopted will come into a safe and loving home. The study will ask you and your spouse for several pieces of information including credit and employment checks, criminal record checks, and personal interviews with you. They may also ask for personal references and do some interviewing of friends and family members. Typically, there is also a minimum of one in-home visit with you and your spouse, and sometimes several in-home visits are performed. Choose a Child to Adopt After you’ve passed the home study stage, it is time to begin looking for a child to adopt. Your name will go on a list with other parents who are now eligible to adopt, and you can begin working with the agency to find the right child for you. The agency will ask if you prefer a boy or girl, as well as if you’d rather adopt a baby, toddler, or even an older child. Once you tell the agency your criteria, they will begin to assist you in your search. For many adoptive parents, they must be placed on a waiting list until a child is available. Placement and Adoption Your adoption agency will contact you as soon as you’ve been selected to choose a child for placement. You will then have an opportunity to meet the child and spend some time with him or her. If everything works out, the agency will assist you with filing for official adoption. In most states, you need to file a petition with the court for intent to adopt. As soon as this part of the process is complete, you’re officially new parents to a loving child.  Contact a service like Pregnancy Resources to learn...

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Are You Skeptical About Premarital Counseling? Don’t Skip It To Help Your Christian Marriage

Posted by on Oct 7, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Are You Skeptical About Premarital Counseling? Don’t Skip It To Help Your Christian Marriage

If you are marrying someone with strong Christian beliefs and you haven’t been raise with as strong as a Christian background, you may want to consider premarital Christian marriage counseling to help strengthen the marriage. Not only will it help strengthen the marriage, but it will provide you with information you may not get anywhere else. There are many things that you can discuss in counseling that you may not feel comfortable asking your soon-to-be spouse about when you’re alone. Here are a few things you should make sure you bring up with your counselor. Finances There are many couples from every different religion that don’t talk about finances before marriage, or they don’t open up to their spouse about debts and other financial concerns. You should know what type of potential debt your spouse may be bringing to the marriage, and they should know about yours. In premarital counseling, you should get a finance booklet to help you set a budget, save, and plan for the future. Dedication to Faith How often will the two of you go to church, or participate in church related events? If your soon-to-be spouse wants to be at the church several nights a week and at service on Saturday or Sunday, and you think that just one day a week will be sufficient, the counselor can help you find an agreement. The two of you can work together to find a healthy balance that helps both of you. Children Maybe you think that one or two kids are enough because of finances and your current age, but your spouse wants more. Talking about how many children you’re going to have, if you are going to use contraceptive and other things before you walk down the aisle is crucial, and it’s best not to assume you know what your spouse wants. Work after Children Are you planning on not working after you have kids, or is your fiancée planning on staying home with the children? If you don’t think that will work in your budget or you aren’t sure how to make it work, talk it over with them. The counselor can help you guys set a plan to try to keep your spouse home, or you home, and will help everyone be realistic. If you aren’t sure that you want to go to premarital counseling, you will be surprised to see how helpful it can be. The counselor will make you talk about things that you don’t want to discuss, or that you haven’t thought off, so you can start your marriage with a plan. For more information, talk to a professional like The Center for Family Counseling,...

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3 Great Benefits Of Ongoing Individual Therapy

Posted by on Oct 5, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 3 Great Benefits Of Ongoing Individual Therapy

You should consider individual therapy counseling if you want to begin reaping some serious mental health benefits. Mental health is receiving serious attention in this day and age, which is a positive thing, since it has been stigmatized for some time. If you have ever considered getting counseling before, take heed to the information below so that you can understand the advantages of mental health and get the help of a counseling professional.  Benefit #1: A Counselor Can Help You Remain Accountable To Your Goals And Objectives Goal accountability is something that is drastically important, though most people do not have it. When you reach out to a mental health professional, they can act as a life coach of sorts, allowing you to enjoy the mental benefits of setting and achieving goals. They will help you start incremental goals that will greatly boost your life so that you are able to make strides in your professional life, personal life, health and fitness, and any other issues that will help you overcome mental blocks. They will provide a constant little nudge and reminder to you as you look to grow stronger, while improving your mental standing. Benefit #2: Speaking To A Mental Health Professional Is Excellent For Long-term Care Therapists are also an excellent resource because they will be there for you for a long period of time. Stressors and mental blocks did not manifest overnight — instead, it took many years for your mental standing to reach the point it is now. For that reason, you should not expect to beat depression and other mental issues with the snap of a finger. These professionals are dedicated to helping you with any sort of psychoanalytical treatment for the long haul, keeping detailed history that will serve you as you get better with each and every session. Benefit #3: Individual Therapy Sessions Can Help You Overcome Serious And Dangerous Patterns Counseling sessions are also beneficial in rewriting patterns that led to severe and ongoing problems, such as addiction, eating disorders and phobias. These severe issues make it very difficult to live a regular quality of life and should be treated with seriousness. Your therapist will be able to provide you with therapy sessions that will work excellently in conjunction with medicines. Take advantage of these benefits by getting in touch with a professional counselor today. Contact a company like Joy Miller & Associates – Counseling & Wellness Center for more...

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